Very often, parents have wished that there was some sort of guide that would tell them the right and the wrong thing to do, in black and white, when it comes to parenting.
New Delhi: Parenting is a difficult process. You find yourself struggling with where to draw the line for your children, so that they feel loved and understood, but do not start taking them for granted. As a parent, you want the best for your child but are apprehensive if what you think is best for them is actually the way you think it is. Mothers are often also worried about their child’s nutrition and want him/her to eat the best food, but children can be quite picky. Parenting comes in all phases – physical, emotional, psychological, etc. and it is important to be able to handle all of them with care.
Very often, parents have wished that there was some sort of guide that would tell them the right and the wrong thing to do, in black and white, when it comes to parenting. While that wish was not granted, because every child is different and grows up in different circumstances than the other, things have still been made easier. Here are five principles of good parenting that you can learn from and imbibe in the upbringing of your child.
Attachment is one of the primary principles of good parenting. For you to fall under the category of a good parent, you must attach to your child on an emotional level. According to experts, children bond on a biochemical level and when the attachment isn’t there, their relationships with people outside families also suffer. When they feel safe and secure in attachments within the family, they are able to build secure relationships outside as well.
While we expect respect from children just because they are young and may know less than us, elders often tend to forget that treating children with respect and consideration is an extremely important principle of parenting. Research suggests that children who are treated with respect and consideration by their parents, have a bigger hippocampus and thus have better memory, learning and stress response. Children should be treated with love and not physically hit to train them in a certain way, they should be allowed space, and their uniqueness should be acknowledged and appreciated.
Teach your children to be disciplined
One form to discipline your children is to punish them every time they do something unacceptable, which can instil the fear of the punishment in them, and therefore they won’t repeat what they did. Another form is to teach them to be disciplined. When they learn discipline through the first way, they learn it out of fear, but when they learn it through the second way, they understand the difference between right and wrong, and why should they not do something. Positive discipline goes a long way and can help them make the right decisions in life.
Be a proactive parent
Another principle of positive and good parenting is to be able to see signs of some sort of behaviour in your child and prepare for it beforehand so that you do not respond impulsively. It means to listen to your child and observe them. It also refers to creating a good connection with your child actively to avoid any behaviours that may arise due to a disconnect or an attachment issue.
Let your kids take the lead
Of course, you will be at the end of it regulating their choices, but as a parent, you must give them the lead to make their decisions. You must help them understand the right and the wrong, and reason with them if you think they have made the wrong choice, but always ruling out their opinions or interests can hamper their confidence and also lead to anxiety issues later in life. They may not be able to voice their opinions outside the home, because they feel unheard at home itself.
Disclaimer: Tips and suggestions mentioned in the article are for general information purposes only and should not be construed as professional medical advice. Always consult your doctor or a professional healthcare provider if you have any specific questions about any medical matter.